Top Ten Communication Tips for Successful Relationships

A common reason that people see a psychotherapist or couples counselor is difficulties in communicating.  The key to good communication is being a good listener.  Here is  my top ten list for being a good listener:

1.  Stop what you are doing and be present.

2.  Allow the other person to finish his or her thought without finishing it for him or her.

3.  Avoid giving advice, unless it is specifically requested.

4. Let the other person know you have heard him or her by reflecting back what you have heard.

5.  Do not interrupt.

6.  Listen with your heart, not just your head.

7.  Listen for your triggers and take a deep breath.

8. Look directly at the person speaking.

9.  Keep your body language positive – avoid rolling your eyes, crossing your arms across your chest, etc.

10.  Slow down and breathe!

Today’s Top Ten on Healing Grief

Grief and loss are stressful — physically, emotionally and spiritually. Remember to take care of yourself.  Here are my top ten ways to transform loss into healing and growth:

1.  Eat nourishing foods.

2. Get plenty of rest.

3. Exercise — especially walking.

4.  Allow yourself to cry — and drink lots of water (crying is dehydrating).

5.  Surround yourself with loving people.

6. Journal — don’t worry about grammar or spelling!

7. Meditate.

8. Take a warm bath.

9.  Appreciate nature.

10. If your feelings are overwhelming, see a trained grief counselor or psychotherapist.