Contrary to popular belief, depression is not a “normal” part of the aging process, but a treatable mental health condition. Symptoms of depression include feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, helplessness, guilt, isolation and unrealistically negative beliefs about oneself. These feelings not only affect the depressed person, but also their family members, loved ones and caregivers.
Depression is unlikely to go away by itself, and the guidance of a professional counselor, in addition to a physician, is often warranted. In fact, psychotherapy has been found to very likely help the depressed senior live a happier, more fulfilling life and decrease the risk of suicide.
There are a number of things a loved one or caregiver can do to help alleviate a depressed senior’s depression. These include:
1. Make sure the depressed person sleeps and eats regularly.
2. Reinforce rewarding experiences and activities, including exercise.
3. Explore spiritual or religious beliefs as a source of personal comfort and support.
4. Allow the depressed person to tell his or her story, called “life review”, through techniques such as guided journaling, letter writing, autobiography or collage.
A counselor or psychotherapist trained in narrative therapy can be particularly helpful for helping seniors find meaning and a sense of integrity and ease their feelings of depression. Narrative therapy is particularly helpful in helping depressed clients reconcile the inevitable losses incurred over a lifetime and find meaning in those losses in the context of their lives through the telling of the story of their lives. The role of the narrative therapist is to bear witness to the complexity and rich nuances of the evolving story and collaborate with the client in to make sense of his or her losses and find healing and growth through the process of reconciling those losses and acknowledging the contributions they have made in their lives.